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It is so, that there are a thousand and one instructions on how women are to live. What women are to do with their<\/em> bodies. What she is to do with her toenails to the tip of her hair. From the external to the internal organs, there are laws, regulations, expectations, and advice<\/em> on how she is to look, work, be paid, behave, speak, date, and breath. And these come from every angle. The radical feminists, the liberal feminists, the conservationists, religion, family, the list is countless. For they are provided on the premise of aiding the woman navigate life. There is always something she needs to do or is not doing. And that is the reason women tend to inherit blame or are awarded the blame when situations like child loss, divorce, job loss, childlessness etc. happen. The general belief is that she could have done A, B and C to counter these situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, with so many voices telling me what I am to do with my body, my voice, my hair, my mind, etc. in which breath do I find out what I want? What I want, what I want to be, what I want to look like, what makes me happy? Where is the space to nurture those thoughts and fulfil the person God created me to be? As much as society has expectations, mostly outrageous I dare say, it behoves on me as a human being to find out my desires for my life. Do I have expectations of myself? Do I want to work because society expects me to? Do I desire children because it is expected of me? How many children do I want to have? To what extent and levels can I pursue formalized education? What can I wear today? As I ask these questions, I realise there are provided responses from concerned parties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhat is the essence of a woman who desires no children?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cA woman should not desire for much in her future, she will be provided for by her husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cA woman does not dress like that.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And these are statements that have literally flown into my body through my ear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If everyone and society has these expectations of me, at what point do I start to live out my expectations? That is, if I have asked and know what my desires are. Am I leaning only towards what society expects, concerned about what will happen if I do not conform?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What do I want?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do I really want that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or am I pursuing that because it is what is expected of my kind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Great! When what I desire aligns with the world\u2019s expectations of me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what if my desires do not conform? Will I still pursue them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Will I keep finding my woman<\/em>, even when I know I will be challenged and despised?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Down here, there are no easy roads, but better to be on the road chosen.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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